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Wedding Thank-you Note Wording

We love every each one of them, but trying to come up with heartfelt messages can be such a daunting task. Below are links that I find very useful in help getting the job done.

Examples of how to title the envelops:
http://weddings.about.com/od/invitations/a/How-To-Address-Your-Wedding-Invitations.htm

Examples of thank-you note wording for bridal party:
http://www.thank-you-note-examples-wording-ideas.com/bridesmaid-thank-you.html

Examples of thank-you note wording for best man:
http://www.thank-you-note-examples-wording-ideas.com/thank-you-notes-for-wedding.html

Examples of thank-you note wording for guests who attended the wedding:
http://preciousinvitations.com/sample-wedding-invitations-wording/149-sample-wording-thank-you-cards.html

Examples of thank-yous note wording for guests who did not attend:
http://newlyweds.about.com/od/WeddingThankYouCards/a/Wedding-Thank-You-Cards-Etiquette_2.htm

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在這個世界全球化的過程中,越來越多的人的另一半是「外國人」。另一半是外國人的華人中,有些人選擇中式的婚禮,有些人選擇西式的婚禮。大部份的新郎跟新娘在完成終身大事的日子都是穿著白紗和西裝,鳳冠霞帔已經非常地罕見。那中式和西式有哪些不一樣呢?我整理成以下三大點:

  1. 迎娶跟Yes, I do

迎娶應該是中式婚禮跟西式婚禮中最大的差異。為了籌備在台灣的婚禮,我把華人的習俗融會貫通了。一直以來我個人對於華人的婚禮儀式比較不能接受的就是男方把女方迎娶回家這件事。尤其是在台灣,女方的媽媽最後還得潑水的習俗真的很沒辦法接受。潑水這個儀式,應該是對於媽媽在心態上的調適有所幫助,畢竟女兒終究是要離開原生家庭,建立一個自己的家。然而,「嫁出去的女兒,潑出去的水」的概念….是把女兒跟水比較嗎?水會蒸發!女兒會回來!

不好意思,離題了。但簡單的來說,在華人的世界裡,當男方排除萬難地將女方迎娶至自己家裡,女方從此之後就成為自己的妻子了。而在西方的世界裡,「你願不願意娶某某某為妻?」和「妳願不願意嫁給某某某?」才是在眾人(和上帝)面前合約成立的瞬間。

2. 婚禮前後的活動

華人世界的大小禮聘和喜餅之類在西式的婚禮過程裡是沒有的。取而代之的是女方的女性親友為即將出嫁的新娘舉辦的Brial Shower。前來參加的女性親友們會準備禮物,據說目的是讓婚禮能夠更順利的進行。除此之外,剩下的應該就是眾所皆知的「單身派對」,給新人們一個最後一次做也許在婚後不是那麼妥當的事的機會。

3. 送禮的方式

大部份華人以外的人,應該都很難理解客人在送禮金的當下,錢立刻被拿出來數的這件事。當我第一次發現這件事時,其實也是嚇一跳。送多少錢被週邊的人當面在腦海裡評論,對客人來說應該真的是一件很尷尬的事情。大家對於西方婚禮的印象應該都是參加的客人會送新人在特定的百貨公司裡選好的禮物。不過最近送禮金的人應該有大幅增加的傾向。好像很多新人會指明希望大家以錢代替禮物,比較真的是比較實用。不過西式婚禮上,大部份送禮金的人會把錢夾在卡片裡,不會被拿出來數。雖然錢被拿出來數很尷尬,在自己經歷過喜宴的籌劃後,我發現這樣的方式十分的合理。畢竟和西式婚禮比起來,中式婚禮的賓客的人數一般來說多出許多。如果都由新人在婚禮前支出,就算是一半,也是一筆非常大的費用。相形之下,日本人的婚禮的支出就非常龐大。在中式的婚禮上,盤點完收到的紅包的總金額後,能夠立刻以其中的一部份將宴席的費用付掉,應該是一種心中的大石頭落下的感覺。

4. 喜宴的內容

待續

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Forest Flower Bouquet in a Pre Wedding Photo Session

vintage themed bouquet

Taking pre-wedding studio photos is a norm in East Asia. It’s quite similar to the concept of taking engagement photos in the America. The purpose of such is to capture more romantic moments in a quieter setting as opposed to photos taken on the actual wedding day which is mostly about putting on a show for guests who participate at a big banquet.

Unlike engagement photos, taking in semi-formal or casual wear, typically the bride-to-be and the groom-to-be will take pre-wedding studio photos in wedding dresses and tuxedos. This is often an opportunity for the soon-to-be-married couple to look at their best, especially since editing is a big part of the photo package. The edited photos will later on be used for decoration for the wedding banquet.

I am not sure why there’s such cultural difference, but I do notice that many Asian couples prefer what I call “celebrity-style” photo shoot. Many of them prefer to be much accessorised and pose in a way that is more likely seen in fashion magazines than in real life. This is rather different from the minimalistic approach of taking photos in simple and intimate setting that is popular in the West.

When my husband and I went to a photo studio to discuss the details of our pre-wedding studio photos, our person in charge had to double-check with every choice that I made since no one wanted to look “clean and simple” in their wedding photos. “Clean and simple” meant elegance to me but shabby in Chinese standard.

forest flower bouquet
Muted color bouquet, perfect for a fairytale-themed wedding

 

We didn’t end up taking our pre-wedding studio photos in Taiwan, but we still needed some studio photos for our debut wedding video, so we found a Swedish photographer to take our photos while we were on vacation in Sweden. Here are a couple of photos of the bouquet I put together from flowers picked from my mother-in-law’s lovely garden to be used for our photo shoot. I just love this kind of pale, muted colour palette.

sunlight
Our pre-wedding photo taken in a forest